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6 Predictors of Relationship Satisfaction

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Happy Valentine’s day!

Or is it? That might depend on how satisfied you are with your relationship.

It’s hard to define what makes a good relationship, but scientists have a few ideas. Here are 6 factors that have been linked to relationship satisfaction.

1. Knowing your partner’s emotions

It’s easier to navigate a relationship when you’re able to read your partner’s emotions, and vice-versa. A meta-analysis of studies found that partners report higher relationship satisfaction when they’re better able to guess each other’s emotions.

The effect was small but statistically significant – that is, it’s definitely not the only thing that matters for relationship satisfaction, but it’s something. The study also found that being able to read negative emotions seems to be especially important.

2. Good sex

Relationships are about more than sex, but good sex certainly won’t make things any worse. A study following straight couples for two years found that couples with higher sexual satisfaction in the present tended to have higher relationship satisfaction in the future.

Interestingly, the opposite was not true. In other words, starting with good sex predicts having a good relationship later on, but starting with a good relationship does not predict subsequently having good sex.

3. Emotional support, but not too much advice

A study of 114 newlyweds showed that receiving more emotional support was linked to higher relationship satisfaction. This might seem obvious, but the finding that surprised the researchers was that even people who claimed to have a preference for less emotional support turned out to be more satisfied with emotionally supportive relationships.

The researchers also looked at informational support, which is about giving practical support like advice. Here, people really did have different levels of how much support they wanted, with too much and too little informational support both interfering with relationship satisfaction. There is such a thing as too much advice.

4. Mindfulness

Mindfulness has been linked to mental health benefits, and it appears that some of those benefits spill over into relationship satisfaction. A 2007 study found that mindfulness was linked to more satisfying relationships.

The study showed a few reasons why this might be the case. In particular, people with higher levels of mindfulness were less responsive to emotional stress and more likely to come out of relationship conflicts with positive perceptions of the relationship. Mindfulness, then, may help people deal with their relationships’ rocky times.

5. Self-forgiveness

Speaking of the rocky times. People in relationships sometimes do things that hurt their partners, which is where the question of forgiveness comes up.

You might guess that relationships would fare better when people forgive their partners’ transgressions. But what appears to also be important is that people forgive themselves for relationship blunders. It turns out that self-forgiveness is associated with higher relationship satisfaction both for the person forgiving themselves and for their partner.

6. Trying new things

Participating in new activities together and expanding your horizons can give your relationship a boost. A study published this month showed that doing new things together was linked to higher levels of sexual desire in couples, which in turn was linked to higher relationship satisfaction.

The study found that “self-expanding” activities seem to produce a rise in relationship satisfaction that lasts over time, and that isn’t just the result of spending more time together. One explanation, according to the researchers, is that “novel activities with a long-term romantic partner can reignite feelings of passion from the early stages of a relationship.”

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6 Predictors of Relationship Satisfaction


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